“Wow, I didn’t know you knew how to write?,” said a ghost from my past. “Well what did you really know about me?,” I countered. I find it peculiar how some people want to label and pigeon hole another based on their past. I suppose if you live in your past then it would make sense. But if you truly are the person who you believe yourself to be, then the past is not even prelude to the future.
I think back when I was in high school and how I didn’t want to be there. Too many “false” people then in my life. There were those that thought they were already “grown-ups” and knew the mysteries of life and nothing new was left to be discovered. They settled into boring lives (my opinion) and never ventured further than where we all grew up. There were others still that moved away (though not far away) only to settle into the same routine that they were accustomed to from high school.
In some respects, I guess that is okay. You would have “stability” in your life; the spouse would be home at a certain time, the children would be taken care of and your lifestyle reinforced upon them so that they could repeat the cycle when they got older. I only have one word for that… BORING. What is life but an adventure! I have traveled to many parts of the globe and am always fascinated by what I learn each time I venture away from my home state and the US. And it doesn’t matter where I’ve traveled to, I always see doppelgangers from my past…
The sports star who later becomes either an alcoholic (because they live in their glory days of the past), or they are successful in business because they applied some of the lessons that only being part of a team can teach you. Then there are those that kept a relatively low profile in school who became even larger successes in the business world. They knew their self worth and didn’t let the past stop them from becoming who they were all along. And then there were others that no matter how they tried to fail, success found them anyway. I personally like the ones that break the proverbial mold and try to succeed no matter the odds. Those types of people have the power to change the world.
I can’t say that I’ve broken too many molds, but am happy to report that I broke the one that most tried to corner me into because of their belief in who they thought I was then. “Your past is not future unless you decide to live there.” Not sure when I first heard that expression, but I truly believe it. And it is my belief. No one else’s. So it doesn’t’ matter to me what someone else “believes”. It only matters what I believe. To paraphrase Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one has permission to make you feel less of yourself, unless you give them permission to do so.”
I’ve written some things that others have identified with, and I’ve written some things that they haven’t. Perhaps this will be an example of the former and not the latter. In either case, the only one that can ruin your day is yourself.
“Be adventurous, be bold, be daring, be yourself.”
In life, we’ll always find some one to put us down. Seek out people that genuinely build you up and you genuinely build them up in return. “Believe in yourself. Someone has to make the first move.” – read from a Salada tea bag tag many years ago and still applies today.
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